Disclaimer – This post is in no way, shape or form meant to condemn/judge anyone. It is simply me sharing my journey hoping to encourage someone.
I’m sorry guys, I know, I know, I won’t even give an excuse this time. I have been procrastinating for the longest time but I’m glad I’m finally back to blogging. You forgive me, right? The Bible says we should forgive seventy times seven times. I’m sure you haven’t exceeded that number yet😂. I have been postponing writing this post and have been looking for every excuse not to do it. I thank God for the strength to do it and for using me as His mouthpiece.
Here we go. I remember in high school as teenagers, people were never shy to discuss about their first times. In fact, you would often find people in small groups discussing in-depth about it. I would try and not get too involved in these conversations but sometimes it was inevitable and questions were directed to me. I would try to change the topic or if no other option was available, I would fabricate a story so that I would not look like a weirdo. Why would I fabricate you may ask? Because I had and still have not had my “first time yet.”
Let’s Dive in,
Sexual purity has become an unpopular opinion in our society. No one wants to talk about it because it is not deemed “cool”. The reason I used to lie about it was to look “cool” and to fit in with everyone else. I regret such things and I wish I had stood my ground from the beginning. It’s never too late though to share this. Waiting for marriage was that one thing I knew was right but I wasn’t really keen to confess. Although I have been practising sexual purity for all my life, it was not until a few years ago that I made the conscious decision to intentionally speak it with others and most importantly before getting into a relationship. Granted, the path has not been easy. There are a lot of obstacles and temptations along the way. However, 1^st Corinthians 10:13 reminds me that the temptations in my life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than I can stand. When I am tempted, he will show me a way out so that I can endure. For the longest time I believed the lie of the enemy that as long as I was not having sex, pornography and masturbation was not as bad. I thank God who saved me from this lie and became the light to my path and now I have a testimony of freedom, which you can read about here.
When God created the world, he created one man for one woman under one covenant and governed by one God. This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one (Genesis 2:24). I believe this joining is marriage and is where man and woman are made one with God at the centre. God who ordained sex put it into a container – That container is marriage. Since sex makes man and woman one, it is only meant to happen in this union. The Bible even says:

Proverbs 5: 15- 17

Drink water from your own well— share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers.

Nobody wants to talk about it though. This topic has become a taboo even by ministers of the gospel. The fact that nobody is talking about it does not negate the fact that sexual purity was God’s original idea. God commands us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18 -20) and to offer our bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to Him (Romans 12:1). Society has justified fornication as practising for marriage. I have often heard questions asked: If you are not having sex before marriage, how will you know how to do it when that time comes? To which I always say, when God created Adam and Eve, they did not have any past sexual experience but they were still able to be fruitful and multiply. Another common question is: If you don’t have sex before marriage, does that assure that your sex will be perfect when you get married? Sexual purity is not the assurance that you will have perfect sex after marriage. However, I know that it shall be worth the wait. Furthermore, I know whom I trust (God) and I am sure that He is able to guard what I have entrusted to Him (my sexual purity) until that day – 2 Timothy 1:12
As I said earlier, this post is not about judging anyone or an effort to seem self-righteous. On the contrary, it is a post to encourage you who is reading this and is on the sexual purity path. Be strong, trust in God and ask Him to give you strength to overcome the temptations. God did not say that the journey would be easy but He promised to be with us all the way. If no one has ever told you this, you are not weird for pursuing this path and sexual purity is COOL.
This post is also for you, who might have already had your first time. Regardless of the circumstances in which that happened, you can still start the journey of sexual purity today. It is never too late and it doesn’t matter how far you’ve gone. There is no where you can go where the hand of God’s grace cannot reach you. Ask God to give you strength to walk through the journey. He will surely help you- He has never and will never fail or abandon us.
I would like to also urge you to speak about it if you are pursuing this journey. Don’t be ashamed. Society is keen to advocate for sex before marriage, let us counter this and champion for sexual purity. You may never know who is waiting to hear it from you.
Feel free to leave a comment regarding this and if you would like to discuss even further, You can drop me an email: victorgeorge1998@gmail or shoot me a DM on Instagram: @thevictorgeorge
May the peace that surpasses all human understanding be your portion.
God Bless You,
Victor George